I never knew that the journey of a mother could be so eventful!
With every new year, the challenges seem to be growing and the responsibility of being a parent increasing by leaps and bounds. Everything seemed so straightforward and by the book. But now, there are so many areas of personality development to be taken care of that every night I am left exhausted and wondering if I dealt with the days issues in the right manner or not.
MY GOALS AS A MOTHER FOR MY DAUGHTER
To instill the following qualities in her :
- RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOUR
- RESPECT FOR ELDERS
But HOW? How to make her understand? How to groom her into a real princess and not just a fairy tale princess?
As the age of rebellion has set in, my goal for my 4 and half year old daughter above seem to be getting more and more difficult to achieve. I tried patience, I tried strictness, I tried completely ignoring. But there seems to be no right answer. However, there is one simple yet wonderful TIP that I believe has started working its wonders gradually.
THE GOLDEN TIP
Every night, after wrapping up the day in whatever high or low note, I tuck in my daughter in the bed, lie down with her and WE PRAY (TOGETHER).
“O GOD, THANK YOU FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL DAY THAT YOU GAVE ME. TODAY, I PRAY TO YOU, TO PLEASE MAKE ME A KIND PERSON WHO LOVES AND CARES FOR OTHERS. NEVER LET ME FORGET TO RESPECT MY ELDERS WHO LOVE ME SO MUCH TOO. MAY I ALWAYS BE TRUTHFUL AND WORK HARD TO BE THE BEST POSSIBLE PERSON I CAN BE.
What I try to do through this is to try to instil my goal values in her mind so that if not always able to practice these values, she still subconsciously realises what is right and what is wrong. Everyday through the prayer, she relives her day and if she has done something wrong, she admits it to me honestly. I on the other hand, with lot of love, forgive her and softly explain it to her as to how she can make amends.
For e.g.. Once she raised her voice in front of her grandparents and annoyed them. At night after our prayer, she admitted the same to me by saying, ” Mumma, today I think I disrespected my elders.” I replied back, “It’s alright little one. We all make mistakes but the bravest people in the world are those who admit their mistakes and say sorry. You can always apologise to your grandparents in the morning and I can assure you they are going to be so so proud of you. Mumma loves you a lot!”
We cannot run away from the fact that we are humans and so are our kids. We cannot always control them but what we surely can do is impart the right virtues and always maintain positivity around them. This night time ritual has now become the most fulfilling part of our day.
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