I am personally a big fan of Indian festivals and have lot of faith in them. I am not sure if keeping these rituals would bring happiness and prosperity in my life but I do know that for at least that one moment they would bring that purity in my heart which will make me happy. When I light the diya in my thali, I WILL feel its warmth and it would travel within me and spread to others.When I look at my husband through the sieve in the night, I WILL remember how much he means to me and how much I love him. Isn’t that what these festivals are really about? Bringing out the good in you!
Since childhood I have watched my mom keep Karvachauth fast for my dad in the most traditional way and I would hover around them, gaping at them wondering when I would be old enough to do all this. Now I finally am and I like to enjoy every bit of it. Below I have shared the traditions and rituals to be followed when you keep karva chauth fast that my dear mother (Mrs Neena Jain) has shared with me. Hope this helps you too! Thanks mumma for sharing this with our readers!
On the day of Karvachauth, married woman wake up before the sun (Sunrise : 6:31 am), take a bath, get ready bedecked with all the things termed as – ‘suhaag ki nishaniyaan’. This would include bindi, bangles, mehndi, sindoor, mauli or red ribbon (tied to washed hair) all of which are gifted by their mother in laws. Then they have an early breakfast of the following things which is to be completed before sunrise.
Milk with pheniyaan
Assortment of sweets/Mithai
Foods of their choice like paranthas, dhokla etc. to help get through the rest of the day
Post this, women keep a fast till they see the moon, sacrificing both food and water.
In the afternoon, groups of women get together for this ritual where they all sit in a circle with their thalis which hold the following:
1 1/4 kg Mithi Mathi
Gift for mother in law
Silver glass or gadvi with a mauli tied around its neck and filled with clean water
This thali is to be covered with red cloth. Now, the women pass around their thalis singing the song of karvachauth completing 4 rounds. Every time a round completes and they recieve their thali back, they sprinkle water around it and bow to it.
Traditionally bahmanis used to visit the house of the villages to narrate stories of karvachauth but nowadays, the elders of the house do so. The thali is then offered to the mother in law who accepts the eatables and gifts offered and returns it back filled with fruits, 2 mathis and her blessings as the daughter in laws touch their feet for ashirvaad.
BREAKING THE FAST
In the night, women run to the roofs of their houses with their thalis to spot the moon post which they can break their day long fast. The thali holds the 2 mathis, glass of water with mauli, a diya and a sieve. Women see the moon first and offer it mathi and water 7 times by sprinkling a little at it. Then they see their husbands through the same sieve and ask for their permission to break the fast. The husbands offer the first bite to their wives of mathi and first sip of water. Women then touch the feet of their husbands asking for thier blessings and thus complete the fast of Karvachauth.
You may find some or the other variation in these rituals as they have been modified from religion to religion but the essence stays the same.
The only other thing that I would like to add to it is to ask of all of you to kindle the spirit and love with which all these rituals have been made and remember that all this is of no use if you hold back your love towards your husbands and your families.